10 Things You Need To Stop Doing Right Now

It’s amazing how hard we can be on ourselves sometimes, isn’t it? Why do we do it? We know it’s unreasonable and shouldn’t be doing it.  But it seems like for so many of us, it’s in our nature to take care of everyone else first and leave ourselves last.  I want you to take a moment to think about how much time is being wasted by you doing stuff that is not helping you move towards authentic success and happiness.

If you put massive energy on the real important stuff in life, you know you are going to have less stress, more happiness and you’ll feel much more productive that you are getting things done.  So, let’s take a look at this list I’ve put together and be honest with yourself if you are doing any of these things. If you are, isn’t it time for you to stop doing them?

10 Things You Need to Stop Doing Right Now You only live once Mae West

  1. Avoiding Issues That You Have – We all have negative stuff in life from time-to-time that we need to deal with. Our lives are not perfect. But do you find yourself avoiding having those difficult conversations or making hard decisions? I am not saying it will be easy to deal head-on with things, but you just have to deal with it. If you really want to soar in life, you need to remove what is weighing you down. Not sure how to go about dealing with things? Get support! You will be SO happy once you get through it. Believe me!
  2. Kicking Yourself for Mistakes You Made In The Past – Are you constantly kicking yourself for mistakes you have made in the past? Stop doing that my friends. Life is about learning and growing. Stop looking back. You are NOT going back. It is time to forgive yourself and focus on the present and moving ahead.
  3. Being a Perfectionist – Are you awesome at thinking through things, but do it so much there is a lack of taking action on your part? How’s that working for you?  Success doesn’t come from perfectionism. It comes from massive action. So remember that. You can always make adjustments along the way.
  4. Being Around People That Drain Your Energy –  Do you recognize how drained emotionally you get every time you are around negative, toxic people? Life is way too short to be unhappy or being emotionally drained by people that try to bring you down. It’s essential to work on eliminating the amount of time you are around energy wasters. Surround yourself with amazing positive people.
  5. Taking Care of Everyone Else and Putting Yourself Last – Are you always taking care of others but at the end of the day you feel like you have nothing left for energy to do anything for yourself? If you don’t take good care of yourself, eventually it is going to negatively affect everything else.  Always remember this and start taking great care of yourself!
  6. Comparing Your Life to Everyone Else’s – Are you always looking to what the other person has in life? Stop comparing yourself to anyone else. Life is about creating your own happiness and being your personal best. Once you stop doing the comparison thing, you will live a much more authentic, successful life.
  7. Not Appreciating the Present Moment – Are you always saying you will do something in the future?  Do you often say ‘someday’ you will do something?  Well, let me give you the reality.  Today is the only day promised to me and you. Stop saying you will do it one day. It is time for you to take action. Start living today.
  8. Blaming Others For Your Unhappiness – When something bad happens to you, do you put the responsibility on others? No one is in charge of your happiness but YOU. So I encourage you to take full responsibility for your life. Once you do that, you will start creating your destiny.
  9. Procrastinating on Going For It In Life – As you all know, life goes by really fast.  Do you really want to be one of those people that have regrets in life?  No you don’t! It is YOUR time. Get moving and grooving through life. The time to live is right now.
  10. Stressing the Small Stuff In Life – I always say this to people, but it is so true. You are too blessed to be stressed. Stop stressing the stuff that has no real impact on your life! If it doesn’t really impact your life, try to brush it off and focus on the stuff that really matters. You’ll live a much more fulfilling life once you do that.

So what things on the above list did you do in the past and stopped, which has made you much happier as a result of it?  Or, which things do you need to work on right now? I would love to hear from you!

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Cynthia Bazin is absolutely passionate about YOUR success and happiness. If you are ready and committed to change your life and take charge of your life, contact Cynthia today to start a conversation! She wants to be your mentor!  She will get you laser-focused on the important things in life! Cynthia@smartchic.me  |  https://smartchic.me  Also, be sure to be on the lookout for her 2015 workshops and programs being announced VERY soon! It’s going to be an awesome year for YOU!

Cynthia is also City Director for a national magazine ‘Today’s Innovative Woman’! Check out her city page today!  http://todaysinnovativewoman.com/sacramento



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  1. Nikki Thomas October 27, 2014 at 6:32 am - Reply

    #2, #6 and #10 – Need to work on those big time. I have, however, put a lot of effort into #1 as well as #9. In fact, the latter resulted in my making the switch from being a corporate attorney to a real estate agent. The road hasn’t always been strewn with roses (more like rocks sometimes, haha). But my quality of life has been so much better, and I feel a lot happier. I feel like I am truly expressing who I am in my work. Putting the effort into change and overcoming fears is worth it! 🙂

    • SmartChic October 27, 2014 at 10:17 am - Reply

      Hi Nikki! Thank you so much for sharing your comments on my blog. It is really good that you recognize the things you need to work on. Keep moving forward and congrats on going for what makes you happy in your professional life. Things are only going to get better and better for you! YOU are appreciated!!

  2. Linda Mastroianni October 27, 2014 at 6:37 am - Reply

    Hi Cynthia! Love this post because I think we are all guilty of it at some point. I for one have been guilty of a few but have made some necessary adjustments in the last few years of my life and it has definitely made a huge difference. I think what weighed me down the most was having negative people around. Not only is it draining but it’s emotionally exhausting as well. Thank for sharing this wonderful post an for keeping us on track! It’s a great reminder to start living in the present moment because life is definitely too short!

    • SmartChic October 27, 2014 at 10:13 am - Reply

      Linda, thank you so much for commenting on my article. None of us are perfect! We all have done one or more of the things I put on my list. That is great that you recognized that you had negative people surrounding you and that you have made the necessary adjustments. Good for you. YOU deserve the best! And you are greatly appreciated my friend!

  3. Nicole October 27, 2014 at 7:18 am - Reply

    As always Cynthia, Great post with clear points to get ourselves in action. Awesome.

    • SmartChic October 27, 2014 at 10:11 am - Reply

      Thank you SO much Nicole for your comment. I am so glad you enjoyed my article. You are awesome my friend!

  4. Deb Scott, BA, CPC (@GreenSkyDeb) October 27, 2014 at 7:30 am - Reply

    Amen! Amen! Amen! Excellent top 10 NOT to do!!

    • SmartChic October 27, 2014 at 10:10 am - Reply

      THANK YOU Deb for being an absolute superstar supporter of mine. It means the world to me that you really love this article. Have an amazing week my friend!

  5. Tracy Cotton October 27, 2014 at 7:34 am - Reply

    #1 is a great place to start. And come back to. Because what I’m good on today may be an issue tomorrow and addressing your own issues always helps life move forward positively. Even if your issue is one you don’t like to deal with.

    #6 however is my Achilles heel – I can be moving positively and somehow learning of someone else’s success can slow me down because I’m too busy thinking of why I’m not “there” yet. Comparison is the thief of joy and who wants to be robbed?

    This is wonderful stuff Cynthia – this should get my week off and going in the right direction!

    • SmartChic October 27, 2014 at 10:09 am - Reply

      Thank you so much Tracy for being awesome and sharing your thoughts on my article. I am so glad it is helpful for you. Now get out there and rock this week. You’ve got this!

  6. Jane October 27, 2014 at 8:39 am - Reply

    WOWSome post – as always. I’d love to comment on each of your ten and describe their impact on my own life, either because they are issues for me or that they are not, but then you would be spinning your own wheels between #4 and #5. Here are my top three instead. I am a natural born servant and a natural born caregiver. Combine those two characteristics and you find someone who gets things done – but not without a lot of delays while tending to needs of others. I’ve accepted this a who I am. Personal inventories reveal the true us – not what we wish the true us to be. #5 is problematic for some, but it’s characteristic of me. #7 – guilty! Once again – personal inventory. I tell myself the truth – I can keep looking for a day of the week called someday, but will never find it because someday doesn’t exist. As much as I know this to be true, I continue to fill up my bucket list with intentions, but no action. It isn’t time, it’s boldness that’s lacking. #9 is in bed with #7. It is nobody’s fault but mine that my bucket list is at capacity, but I’m checking nothing off.

    I’m not perfect by any standard – but #1, #2, #3, #4, #6, #8, and #10 are not issues for me. If they ever were in my past, I give God the credit for having matured me and I have grown out of them.

    • SmartChic October 27, 2014 at 10:07 am - Reply

      Wow Jane, thank you so much for sharing your wisdom on my article. You are an amazing woman. You are learning and growing through life and that is key! I appreciate our connection and your support. You are awesome!

  7. Stephanie October 27, 2014 at 8:43 am - Reply

    Great post Cynthia! #3 & #9 go hand in hand for me. I use my perfectionism to procrastinate. Once I make myself aware of it I can move forward. It’s OK… we all have imperfections!

    • SmartChic October 27, 2014 at 10:05 am - Reply

      Hi Stephanie, thank you so much for your comments on my blog. It is so good that you recognize the things you need to work on so you can move forward! I appreciate you so much!

  8. Brad Hanson October 27, 2014 at 9:12 am - Reply

    Hi Cynthia,

    This blog post is the perfect self improvement checklist.

    If we want to be happy and do great things in life, there is a certain mental attitude to be acquired and positive thought forces to be developed and negative qualities to be eliminated. Self-evaluation is the beginning of greatness.

    Your post is a wonderful reminder that we are all capable of improvement and radical changes in our present self. If we follow your suggestions, we can use to a much higher degree of success the greatness within. We can learn more about ourselves – get more knowlege of what we are and what we might be – by studying and improving the qualities we already have.

    You are such a blessing to me and so many others.


    • SmartChic October 27, 2014 at 10:04 am - Reply

      Brad, thank you so much for your fantastic comments. It is so true that in order to succeed in life and be happy, it all starts with the right attitude. I appreciate you. Thanks for being a rockstar supporter of mine!

  9. Dr. Traci Elizabeth Teasley October 27, 2014 at 10:13 am - Reply

    This blog post is SO necessary! #1 is THE one I need to stop doing SUDDENLY, IMMEDIATELY, STRAIGHTWAY, NOW!!! I have to muster up the strength to face it in order to fix it. On my way to do that right this moment.

    • SmartChic October 27, 2014 at 10:20 am - Reply

      Traci, thank you so much for the comments on my blog! I am so glad you recognize what you need to handle. Need support? I am here for YOU! Thanks again and I am so glad my article was helpful to you!

  10. Terri B October 27, 2014 at 11:00 am - Reply

    Wow Cynthia! This is a fantastic post! I think we’ve all experienced a few of these at one time or another. This is a great checklist to improving yourself and your life. I think we’re all works in progress, sometimes we need a positive reminder of what’s important.

  11. Geoff Conn October 27, 2014 at 11:26 am - Reply

    #6 jumps out at me. I have gotten much better at this, but sometimes I find myself wishing I was someone else or had the job they have or were given an opportunity to. But this last 14 months or so since I moved, I have met a lot of great people and made friendships. I know had I not been sent to where I am now, I would have never made the connections I have and for that I am grateful.

  12. Donna from Gomee Girl October 27, 2014 at 1:37 pm - Reply

    Hi Cynthia!

    Those are some surefire ways to be unhappy! I think that living in the moment is a really great reminder because it’s so easy to keep looking for the next thing, especially when you are busy! Taking a moment to enjoy the seconds can make the minutes more meaningful (hey! I might tweet that!).

    Thanks, as always, for sharing such helpful posts – I always look forward to reading them! 🙂

  13. Bonnie October 27, 2014 at 1:42 pm - Reply

    Great post Cynthia! For me #6 has been something I’ve been working on. With Facebook it is so hard not to compare your life with everyone else. No one puts the bad stuff on Facebook. It took a while for me to realize that I’m not them and that I have to go after what I want not what someone else has.

  14. Alli Polin October 27, 2014 at 5:01 pm - Reply

    I’ve been guilty of more than one, but I know that every single person who reads this will feel the same. It’s a part of being human. Filling with doubt, comparison, perfectionism until we let go and learn that there is a more positive and more powerful path to follow! Thanks for leading the way!

  15. Tony Adams October 27, 2014 at 5:56 pm - Reply

    Thanks Cynthia,

    I really did enjoy this post because it took a “negative’ angle (“Don’t do this”) and turned it into a “positive”. As I read it, I was drawn into your message and I found myself thinking…”Yeah, she’s absolutely right. Sure, bad things happen and we all have problems, but we also have the ability to take control and turn the situation into an opportunity”.

    Your post reinforces that wonderful, timeless message – the power to change is right between our ears 🙂
    Well done!

    btw #6 resonates for me at the moment, on a personal level as I work through my changes. I found your post a great boost. Thank you so much.

  16. Dale Fagre October 27, 2014 at 6:07 pm - Reply

    Cynthia, you are so right on with your 10 things to stop now! Every point you make is so balanced and they are all important to begin living a totally abundant life! To reduce stress and free yourself to do great things I recommend you follow Cynthia on a daily basis! She is the real deal!

  17. Adam McGinness October 27, 2014 at 7:05 pm - Reply

    Cynthia, what a great list you have put together. As I look over this list, #4, #5 and #10 are all things that I used to do but have stopped. #4 hits home more than any of them. Surrounding myself with positive, uplifting and supportive people (like yourself) is the only way to go in life! I have been around those “energy drainers” and at the time I did not realize the effect they were having on me. Unfortunately they took their toll on me in a variety of ways. The sad thing is I allowed them to do so. Now if I am around these negative people I do my best to lift them up, not allowing them to drag me down. Thank you for the post my friend. You are a rock star!

    Adam……… @LifetimeTrvls

  18. Susan Thorn October 27, 2014 at 8:49 pm - Reply

    Great post as always! # 1 is my favorite and the toughest! Having the courage and overcoming our fear of how someone “might” respond is not giving them credit and the faith for how they will respond.

  19. Debbie October 27, 2014 at 9:59 pm - Reply

    Love, love, love the phrase – “You are too blessed to be stressed.” So true. No matter where we are in our journeys, and focus on what is working, on what we have accomplished, how far we’ve come and we appreciate it in the present moment, we can generate all the energy and motivation necessary to propel us forward.
    Wonderful checklist of 10 to recognize where we give our power away to beliefs and situations and to use our awareness to reclaim our power.

  20. Karen Gronsky October 27, 2014 at 10:16 pm - Reply

    Great advice! Great perspective! Thank you Cynthia for your informative and inspirational messages!

  21. Johann Gauthier October 28, 2014 at 6:08 am - Reply

    Great post and practical tips. I agree with Alli Polin. In the end being gentle with ourselves is so important. Jane Anderson often says ‘treat yourself to joy today’. What we focus on grows. You are quite an inspiration Cynthia. Congratulations on an outstanding space!

  22. Christy Turner October 28, 2014 at 6:29 am - Reply

    I used to 1, 5, 8, 10 (gah!!), but I think the biggest game changer has been #4. That makes ALL the difference in the world. Once you’re firm about who deserves to be in your zone, the universe just stops supporting tools hanging out there…kinda like how you notice you feel like crap when you eat sugar once you stop doing that–it used to feel comfortable hanging out with certain people, but once your space is cleared of the bad juju, WOW, can’t go back ’cause it just makes you sick.

    • SmartChic October 28, 2014 at 8:03 pm - Reply

      Christy, I absolutely love how you put who deserves to be in your zone of life. Excellent points my friend… You are fantastic and I appreciate you!

  23. Carla October 28, 2014 at 12:28 pm - Reply

    Great article as always Cynthia!! #3 is a tough one for me … “Perfectionism” … I often feel like my mind is working overtime, but I get stalled when it comes to the “time to act” component. I will also admit to struggling a bit with #6 recently. I feel like I’m in a transition mode, not settled with where I am, but not knowing exactly what’s next either. As a result I find myself looking to others and comparing my situation with theirs. But you are right, we need to remember it’s all part of our story. We grow the most in the challenging times so I choose to keep running my race with full confidence that good things are on the way! :))

    • SmartChic October 28, 2014 at 8:01 pm - Reply

      Thank you so much Carla for sharing your journey as it is right now… You are an amazing person and where you are today is only where you start. There is such a wonderful bright future in front of you… we must keep learning and growing through this journey called life. I appreciate you so much my friend and am so glad we are connected.

  24. Terri Klass October 28, 2014 at 1:54 pm - Reply

    Loved the post, Cynthia and related to so many of your outstanding points!

    Obsessing over the small stuff in life can get the better of me and sometimes impact my entire day. I have learned to talk myself through those times and remind myself that whatever just happened isn’t that important in the scheme of things.

    Thanks for saying what we often can’t admit!

    • SmartChic October 28, 2014 at 7:42 pm - Reply

      Thank you so much for your comments Terri… It’s good that you recognize the things you need to work through. We all have those ‘things’ we have to do better on in life. It is a journey! We just have to keep in mind our success and happiness and keep moving forward and better ourselves. I appreciate you my friend!

  25. Sandra Griffin October 29, 2014 at 6:55 am - Reply

    Awesome post and I’m guilty of # 7 I always keep making plans, busy with future events, to do lists and forget to enjoy the present moment.
    Thank you for taking the time and share this great blog.
    You’re amazing, inside and out.

    • SmartChic October 31, 2014 at 4:08 pm - Reply

      Thank you so much Sandra for your comments on the blog. Life does speed on by. Do your best to enjoy all the moments of life. I appreciate you my friend!

  26. Giovanni Gaudelli October 29, 2014 at 7:16 pm - Reply

    Awesome post, Cynthia! Top notch list. All these points are great internal clutter busters! Thank you for the inspiration. 🙂

    • SmartChic October 31, 2014 at 4:09 pm - Reply

      Thank you so much Giovanni for your comments. I greatly appreciate you. You are an inspiration!

  27. Aubrey Welch October 30, 2014 at 1:29 am - Reply

    Hi Cynthia

    I really do like this blog everything you’ve highlighted is so spot on as always.

    Focusing on the important issues is what should always come first. The small minor matters should be left to one side rather than taking up vital time and energy.

    Thanks for bringing all these points to our attention and reminding us!!.

    Keep inspiring in your awesome way 🙂


    • SmartChic October 31, 2014 at 4:10 pm - Reply

      Thank you Aubrey for your comments! We are definitely too blessed to be stressed about the small stuff. Remember to focus on the important stuff. You are appreciated my friend!

  28. gail harris November 1, 2014 at 11:30 am - Reply

    Super list, Cindy. When we do those ten things we will really be controlling our destiny. Of course life is not in our control, and throws us curveballs, but these things are. Thanks for the awesome reminder, as usual.

  29. Marianne McGuire December 13, 2014 at 1:14 pm - Reply

    Such a wonderful list, straight to the main points that hold us back. Funny, I’ve never done #6… And at this stage, I don’t really tolerate negativity around me, life is much better because of it!
    Thank you Cynthia, fabulous article as usual!

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