4 Reasons Why The Word “No” is a Very Positive Word

Are you a people pleaser? Do you think and do for others before you do things for yourself? Are you a “yes” person, typically always accepting invites or volunteering yourself even when you might not really want to do the activity? Why do you say yes to stuff when you really want to say no? Were you raised feeling like that’s the polite thing to do; that in order to be a good person, you need to always give to others first?

I absolutely believe that a big part of our lives needs to be about contributing and giving, but in order to be of great benefit to others, we need to take care of ourselves first. And one of the things we have to do from time-to-time is say “no” to others. Saying the word “no” is a very positive thing in my mind! Let me give you a few reasons why!

4 Reasons Why the Word “No” is a Very Positive Word 

  1. You Are In Control of Your Life  When you say “no” to something that you really don’t want to do, it shows that you are in control of Own it -Thumbnail versionyour life. And that’s the best feeling when you know you have choice. And you DO have choice. In the beginning, it will probably be hard to say no to things if you are not used to doing it, but it will get easier as you do it more.
  1. Keep Focused on Priorities – By saying “no” to certain activities that don’t fit into the well-being of your life, it makes you keep focused on what’s really important in life.
  1. Self-Care – It can be very stressful sometimes when you are constantly doing things for others and only doing it because you would feel bad or guilty if you said no. You must be your top priority in life. Taking care of yourself is so important.
  1. Live with No Regrets -Life is too short spending your time doing things that are not enriching your life. Live your life with zero regrets. Spend a lot more time doing what makes you happy. When you really start realizing how short life is and the need to prioritize your life, it becomes a little easier to say no to things that don’t fit into your life focus.

What are some things that you say “yes” to, that really need to be a “no”? Remember; if it’s not an absolute yes, think before you commit, because it probably should be a “no”.

I’d love to hear your thoughts on what you are going to say ‘no’ to this week in order to say ‘yes’ to your own life!

Time management is an oxymoron. Time is beyond our control, and the clock keeps ticking regardless of how we lead our lives. Priority management is the answer to maximizing the time we have. – John C. Maxwell 

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2016-11-11T11:55:56-07:00By |Inspirational Articles|13 Comments


  1. Alli Polin June 8, 2015 at 5:34 am - Reply

    No isn’t always negative… keeping focus on what matters, intentionally choosing what brings us joy – powerful! Will share! 🙂


    • SmartChic June 8, 2015 at 6:23 am - Reply

      You rock my friend! Thanks for always being awesome Alli. Have a fantastic week. We’ve got this!

  2. Liz Stincelli June 8, 2015 at 6:14 am - Reply

    Thank you for the reminder, Cynthia. Once we start saying yes to people, they start expecting it. Time to break the cycle.

    • SmartChic June 8, 2015 at 6:23 am - Reply

      I wish you a fantastic, productive week Liz. You’ve got this. Thanks so much for the shout out. Let’s do this.

  3. Jane June 8, 2015 at 7:26 am - Reply

    We have talked about this topic and because you’ve really fostered that deep soul searching process, I’ve come to some valid conclusions about how yes and no impact my life. No is good. Yes is good. There is the right time for each word and resulting act. Evaluating and making the right choice for that moment is the key. I find the word ‘no’ to be a critical part of my day. Saying no to things that distract me is more important and makes a greater contribution to my success than saying no to someone who needs help. I don’t feel guilty about saying no to things like “Will you bake 36 cupcakes?” In fact, I don’t feel guilty about saying no at all. My evaluation gauge is based on what my heart tells me. I’m getting a lot better at listening to my heart. And you know what? Sometimes my heart says to say yes, even if it’s something I don’t want to do. On the other hand I need to get a lot better at saying no to myself when my mind wanders, when I do one thing instead of another that has far higher priority. Your key point #4 is where I’m headed with this response. Just as each of us is unique in our skills, interests, abilities, and appearance, we are also unique in how we define success and living a life with no regrets. No regrets for me means knowing myself so well that I choose my yes and no wisely.

  4. Terri Klass June 8, 2015 at 8:16 am - Reply

    Saying “no” is very empowering as it allows us to own our actions and choices. I find that when I don’t say “no” and instead give in and say “yes” with a decision, I usually regret it. Before taking a certain action, I try to be honest about the consequences and what I really want to do, not what others may expect me to do.

    Thanks Cynthia for an insightful post! Will share for sure!

  5. Regan Black June 8, 2015 at 10:17 am - Reply

    Great post, Cynthia!

    Periodically, I’m reminded the world won’t end if I say ‘no’. I was a yes-girl for so long, striving to keep everyone happy. Now “reformed” LOL, I take the time to think things through before giving a yes answer just so someone won’t be upset. Saying no to some things infuses so much joy into the tasks and projects I say yes to.

    Have a fabulous day!

    • SmartChic June 8, 2015 at 4:31 pm - Reply

      Fantastic wisdom Regan! I love that you are ‘reformed’! You are spending more time doing what fuels you in life because you are saying no to what’s not working and saying a big YES to what is! Awesome.

  6. Tracy Cotton June 8, 2015 at 11:23 am - Reply

    Great reminder to an admitted people pleaser! Just a few weeks ago I was really disgusted at myself for not either saying no to baking for a bake sale or alternatively buying something premade to save myself the time and temptation. I didn’t eat anything but next time I will just say no and make a $$ donation in lieu of my time and discomfort. Seriously didn’t need to be baking banana bread when I am on a carb restricted regime!!!!

    Also I know I need to take better care of me so I can be there for the important things I want to say yes to in my life!

    • SmartChic June 8, 2015 at 4:29 pm - Reply

      Thank you so much Tracy for sharing your story. I think everyone can relate to doing something similar at one time or another. Life is about learning and growing and I know you will be focusing more on what works for your life the next time around. Great wisdom you share. I appreciate you!

  7. Karen Gronsky June 8, 2015 at 6:31 pm - Reply

    On point! Love your insights. And Yes! I’m gonna take control! #selflove #givelove #giveback #honorthegood #powerful #positiveity

  8. Aubrey welch June 9, 2015 at 1:12 am - Reply

    Cynthia I agree wholeheartedly!
    No although normally associated with being a Negative can a Positive if used correctly and at the right time.
    Sometimes we have to use it to stay focused take control and keep within our own boundaries.
    Thank you for bringing this simple but important aspect to our attention.
    Keep inspiring us Keep motivating us and Keep being awesome yourself!!

  9. Deb Scott June 9, 2015 at 6:25 am - Reply

    Love it!!! There is a NO in NOble, 🙂

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