Are you a people pleaser? Do you think and do for others before you do things for yourself? Are you a “yes” person, typically always accepting invites or volunteering yourself even when you might not really want to do the activity?
Why do you say yes to stuff when you really want to say no? Were you raised feeling like that’s the polite thing to do; that in order to be a good person, you need to always give to others first? I absolutely believe that a big part of our lives needs to be about contributing and giving, but in order to be of great benefit to others, we need to take care of ourselves first. And one of the things we have to do from time to time is say “no” to others.
Saying the word “no” is a very positive thing in my mind! Let me give you a few reasons why!
Why the Word “No” is a Very Positive Word
- You Are In Control of Your Life – When you say “no” to something that you really don’t want to do, it shows that you are in control of your life. And that’s the best feeling when you know you have choice. And you DO have choice. In the beginning, it will probably be hard to say no to things if you are not used to doing it, but it will get easier as you do it more.
- Keep Focused on Priorities – By saying “no” to certain activities that don’t fit into the well-being of your life, it makes you keep focused on what’s really important in life.
- Self-Care – It can be very stressful sometimes when you are constantly doing things for others and only doing it because you would feel bad or guilty if you said no. You must be your top priority in life. Taking care of yourself is so important.
- Live with No Regrets -Life is too short spending your time doing things that are not enriching your life. Live your life with zero regrets. Spend a lot more time doing what makes you happy.
When you really start realizing how short life is and the need to prioritize your life, it becomes a little easier to say no to things that don’t fit into your life focus. What are some things that you say “yes” to, that really need to be a “no”?
Remember; if it’s not an absolute yes, think before you commit, because it probably should be a “no”. =) I’d love to hear your thoughts on this topic!